omg...i had absolutely no idea! i was wandering around in woeful ignorance...
the lesbian world has a pecking order...
the farm is very quiet, i am looking for intelligent repartee. i am in dire need of distraction. i am nowhere near ready to hit the dating scene, herself still curls inside my heart in a most proprietary fashion.
what to do... match.com was always the answer in the past, but... my fascination with intelligent, well educated american women...has to end.
match.com uk lacks a certain something, like women who will answer an email or even wink back.
the pinksofa is the only answer, a fun internet site, populated by real women, who will actually engage ...
my heart is not really with the whole process, but i must at least attempt to interact with other single lesbians.
i now only consider profiles with photos, i am through wasting my time...life is short!
and so i found the English Professor...ahbloodyhah! experience, where the dickens would we be without it.goodness only knows what the woman was doing on an internet site. EP disliked writing and reading emails..
and here i must quote, as to keep this pearl of written wisdom to myself. would be selfish and most inconsiderate..
"I do like well punctuated writing as I think it makes it clear. If you don´t mind my saying I think deliberate ommission of capitals and self-concious punctuation can get tiresome. Rather like William Borrows technique of writing the text then mixing it up and letting ther eader make sense of it.
It is also somewhat duplicitous in that it is hiding something about the writer.
I am a teacher of English and Literacy (Post Grad) so am quite keen on this sort of thing. I like reading stuff but it gets tiring as I read and write all the time. So, to me, it rapidly becomes a chore, especially text that is demanding."
well...as we all know i do tend to omit capitals...hmmm
as to self-conscious punctuation...i would not recognize it if it bit me on the arse ;-)
naturally, being the arrogant aristo that i am...
i replied..ah well, it was fun while it lasted!
i digress..lesbian pecking order...
self same EP made a point of informing me that she was not surprised that i turned out to be a disappointment and i quote...
"I lived/live a very lesbian feminist life choosing to be child free. It means that I have a problem understanding women who identify as lesbians but live with men and have their children. I don´t judge you understand but it is a very different experience from mine."
second to last email and i quote ...
"I want to meet someone who has a similar life experience.
You were very charming and I didn´t want to be rude. I thought I would try to get to know you and maybe I would change my mind. However you helped me see who I am looking for - if I am looking for anyone. My partners tend to be women who - like me - are out lesbians. It´s a very different way of being in the world."
lessons to be learned:-
beware polite english professors!
know your place in the pecking order!
stick to writing poetry and blogs!
find out what "out" actually means!
when in need of distraction, take up line dancing!
not bad for two days and a handful of interesting emails....
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Gonna admit I don't have very good 'dar' of any kind. But if I had to venture a guess, I'd say EP might be into discipline.
hhhmmm ... discipline ...
makes sense pardner ;-)
Funny, Margo, eh, that those Brits seem to be very much into that - at least in the book you have an erotic short story published in - what was that book? "The Gargantuan Book of Bondage and Domination Plus a Really Great Story By a Cool Cowgirl?"
Sandygirl - Man, try dealing with someone like that all the time. I know me a highly edumacated woman who also does not have children that you may know too- who is totally not pretentious and is totally down to Earth. They're out there, though in her case she's taken. Very. Keep plugging away.
Flip! the good ones are always taken!
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